or did you? New research debunks the theory that picking up crying babies will spoil them. A researcher from Notre Dame studied 600 hundred adults and concluded: "cuddles matter." Babies who were cuddled grow up to be healthier, happier, more well adjusted adults.
Interestingly enough my roomie-mother-in-law and I were talking about how great we believe it is for children to witness affection among their parents to learn connection firsthand. During this chat, I began to ponder my family structure. My parents were NOT close or cuddly people. In fact, they were troubled and violence was prevalent in their marriage. In turn, my siblings aren't very outwardly affectionate from what I see in their longstanding relationships. I'd say some are even troubled in adulthood due to the lack of loving connections in our youth.
To that point, I wondered what made me different? I am the cuddle queen usually all over my hubby. To me, it doesn't matter who's around, I love PDA. Yet, I was raised in the same family as my less affectionate siblings.
I realize now this difference could come down to birthorder. I am the youngest of six. I can remember feeling totally embraced and cuddled by five older siblings and two parents. Little did I know this was creating the future well-adjusted me. I cried a lot like any other baby, however, in my home there was no shortage of helpful hands willing to cuddle me. This in turn made me a cuddlier. My children are huggers, kissers, and all together mushy with those they feel close to likely because this was a part of my upbringing. Luckily, research shows this is a good problem to have.