Thursday, December 15, 2016


I listen to a lot of podcasts, one of my current favorites is called Beautiful Stories from Anonymous People.  The idea is pretty awesome, the host posts on Twitter that he is recording and who ever gets through talks with the host for one hour about anything they want. They just can reveal who they are. No names.

A recent episode had a girl talking about how she makes ASMR videos. Like me the host had no idea what ASMR videos were. ASMR stand for Autonomous sensory meridian response. Turns out they are videos of people whispering and making soft noises that are suppose to give you a static or tingling sensation from you head and down your back. It is used as a way to help people fall asleep.

Apparently this is a super popular thing. This video has over 6.8 million views! Million.

Have you ever heard of ASMR?
Do you think it would help you relax and sleep? 

Tuesday, November 15, 2016

Husband and Wife Slump

Full disclosure: sometimes being married sucks. Now, I don't mean that to be mean, but I can say I've been feeling in a bit of a slump. If you can relate, tell me in the comment section how do you get out of your husband and wife slumps?

This is how I know the hubby and I are in a slump: I haven't necessarily looked forward to our weekly date night. Date nights are meant to be exciting and for years they've been a great way to reconnect and get away from work, parenting, and the routine of everyday that creates good roommates and not great couples!

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Now, this place of awareness is a good place to start to change what feels like a slump. A couple of things he and I need to change right away: strive to keep dates exciting and new,  stop talking about work and kids, and talk about us, oh and no dreaded electronics allowed at date night! Rushing our date and doing the same old, same old, makes this start to feel like a chore and not a joy. 

Next week, we are going on a date night adventure - no doubt! Plus, we are leaving our phones at HOME!

Another consideration: what are we talking about these days? For me, slumps are a product of not being aware of how mechanical the day to day has become. I find that sometimes the hubby and I simply tag team the days away to complete the various commitments we've taken on: kid's soccer, basketball coaching, spanish and art classes, careers, homework assignments, school activities, bills, groceries, chores.... on and on the to-do lists grow, but that doesn't keep marriage exciting. When the slump creeps I begin to shake it up and arrange spontaneous outings. Plus, I ban discussions about logistics and managing our household and children. Basically, how quickly can we get back to that feel good sexiness that brought us together in the first place. It can't all be romance and spontaneity, but that should also never fall away altogether. 

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Finally, acknowledge what is. If I didn't call this slump a slump we'd be fooling ourselves and more of the same would persist, and, that's an injustice. Everyday can't be an exciting adventure but make sure to keep love at the forefront making sure love slumps don't turn into broken unions and unhappy homes. We all deserve great loves, families, and lives and keeping slumps at bay ensures that's what we end up with!

What's your anti-slump marriage strategy?

Thursday, November 10, 2016

Giving Thanks- Projects for the Season

What I love most about November is all the gratitude. I try find one thing to be thankful for every single day, but November is a great time to get the whole family involved. Here are a few easy crafts and projects that will get the whole family counting their blessings. 

Paper Plate Turkey

This is a great one for kids of all ages. Even the toddlers can get involved. A paper plate, construction paper, googly eyes and a pen is all you need. Have each family member write on the feathers what they are thankful for. These can make cute decorations for your thanksgiving meal!

Gratitude Pumpkin 

I love this idea. Mostly because most years we don't get to carving those pumpkins we got at the pumpkin patch and after Halloween they just sit there. Instead of letting them just be a stump on the ground use that pumpkin to have the family write down things they are thankful for. A sharpie marker and a pumpkin is all you need. This will be so cute when it is completely filled with all the different handwriting. Also could make another great centerpiece. Or even a fun thing for your guests to do at your Thanksgiving dinner.

Tissue Box Turkey

Cover a square tissue box with brown paper. Add a turkey and feathers and leave a little post it note pad so your family can add to the box all month. On Thanksgiving day, after you can read each one.

Grateful Paper Chain

Take strips of paper and have your family members write down what they are thankful for. You can do as many strips as there are days left until Thanksgiving. Then every night as you take down one chain you can read what your family is thankful for. I love this kinds of activities because my 6 year old is notorious for asking, "How many days until.....?"

Whatever you do make sure to spend the month giving thanks! There is always something to be thankful for. 

Friday, November 4, 2016

When your kid is totally behind...

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Yeah, that's my kid! No doubt, behind! Granted it's his first year in formal schooling and it's very much pre-k, but I must ask: how are all the other kids this far along? I religiously volunteer in my kid's transitional kindergarten class and I can barely get mine to recognize letters correctly while the rest of the students appear to be rhyming and grasping basic math. One must not compare, I get it. But one can be honest. And my kid is typically behind.

Lot's of reasons for that. 1. My hubby taught our older children basics before schooling even began. In fact, the oldest was fully reading. 2. This child is third in our home and began school earlier than his siblings (he's going to be in kinder two years, so can we consider year one a loss?). 3. He was raised with so much love and care, but no formal schooling. This child of mine was in an at-home day care and in grandmother's care for all of his young life, so basically less counting and more feeding, less learning and more playing. Now, there's nothing wrong with that, but here's the kicker.... he rebels with the formality and structure of schooling.

My little guy gets SO frustrated the minute he can't understand something and that's about every other minute. I feel for him and granted I only observe while in class one hour weekly. I felt horrible at first and then I kicked myself for going there. He will catch up. This is normal. And we can help!

We have to be so on top of homework (which is practice time for understanding letters, numbers, and practicing his fine motor skills). We have to never compare him to others. And, we have to keep it cool -- very cool. I want to run when he runs. I want to resist when he resists. Naturally, we can't. The best advice I can give when a kid falls behind is to not fall behind too!

It's easier to let it be when they struggle and we want to claim "their young". We shouldn't. I've been more patient than ever before, but also more involved than I expected to be since my other children seemed to be at the status quo. Being in his class helps, so there's that advantage. The hubby does homework and he's good about making sure our little man fully grasps all he's struggle with before he leaves our homework table.

So to all moms and dads feeling their kid is behind: hang in there, help all you can, and ask for more help if you're not seeing a gradual improvement. In our case, my kiddo appears to take a while to grasp a lot, but he always ends up coming through in the end with a clear illustration that he's getting this school thing after all. Now, if only all the other kids would slow down... I kid, I kid. 

Thursday, November 3, 2016

Jarritos + Diego Luna= Waterworks

We all enjoy an ice cold Jarritos now and then. Now there is even more reason to love them. They have partnered with the talented Mexican actor/director Diego Luna and have created a beautiful commercial in tribute to the immigrants of this great country. 

Thursday, October 27, 2016

Being "THAT" Mom

My kids quarter grade report cards came in earlier this month. I was very happy with their grades but was shocked to see that my oldest daughter's lowest grade was in Art. It's weird because it is an art class and should be a fairly easy grade and my daughter LOVES art. Of course I asked her why, she told me her the class was boring and she didn't like it. Her friends in class were backing up her story.

Now, not that I don't believe my daughter, but I needed both sides of the story, so I set up a day with the teacher to sit on on the class. After sitting there for the 2 hour class I had to agree with the kids, the class was SO BORING!

For the first hour and a half was spent on 2 short videos and filling in a worksheet. They watched each video twice through. I have to admit, it was 1st period and I was having a hard time keeping my eyes open. As I sat there I took notes, notes for the big parenting lecture I was going to give my daughter.

The bottom line was that, yes the class was boring, yes there are much more interactive and fun way to teach art, but tough cookies. Not everything in life is going to be fun and exciting. Not everything in life will be catered to her likes and interests. The class topic was color as a element of art. The teacher was teaching on the subject so there was no grounds for me to complain to the school.

This was a life lesson for my junio higher, but I do hope that the next time she takes art the teacher is fun and creative. Or even better, if she grows up to be a teacher she is fun and creative.

Tuesday, October 25, 2016

How I let my team "SLACK" off!

My office now minimally deals in dreaded emails with overflowing inboxes and missed assignments. Slack is a team FREE communication tool that revolutionized how we do business day-to-day. There's quite a handful of reasons to use slack (available on mobile devices and desktops), and here are some of my favorites:

#1. Say no to long emails: Slack is much like the old school AOL IM model in nature only it's organized by channels and topics and is much cooler than the static AOL IM. Everything you need to discuss with team members in organized in open or private groups with one or more team members. You can also share files in channels which is a great way to share/store important documents. I no longer comb through email search results to find that one email I needed or to remember something essential.

#2 Reminders: In Slack you're able to use simple "coding" commands to program different functions. My fav. it the reminder function. The system programs reminders, do not disturb settings, and so much more. The reminder tool (quick command /remind) keeps me organized in a way that helps this CEO keep her team accountable.

#3. Organized chaos: important attachments live in one simple place organized in the most appropriate channel using the pin or star feature. Easily pin or star a file or even a conversation to later find what you need without scouring through old emails. 

#4. Mobile-friendly app: Slack has the most effective mobile interface I've ever used.  The desktop and mobile app are identical, fast, and straightforward enough to remain plugged in while on the go. This tool makes working remotely a breeze.

#5. Other useful apps can be easily integrated to work well within Slack. My team, for instance, creates spreadsheets using Airtable (another amazing tool) and changes made there get automatically synched on Slack to notify the team a.k.a team members on a channel based on a topic.

Costs? Slack offers 4 pricing options, but we’ve been on the free plan and loving it.

Thursday, October 20, 2016

Ghosts by Raina Telgemeier

My oldest daughter cannot get enough of graphic novels. Her favorite author is Raina Telgemeier. Miss Telgemeier has a great bibliography of some really fun and thought provoking books. Of course my kid has all of them. When we found out that she would be releasing a new book in September we didn't just order it, we PRE-ORDERED it.

When the book finally arrived my daughter devoured it in just a few hours. After she read it a few more times she left it on my bedside. That is the sign that she wanted me to read it.

I settled in and I was pleasantly surprised at the plot of the story.


Yup I was completely shocked to find that the story revolves around one of my favorite holidays. 2 young sisters move to a new town near the coast. This town just happens to be the perfect place for ghosts to meet.

As the girls and their new friends deal with trying to get their heads around mortality they learn all about the beautiful traditions of Dia de los Muertos.

I highly recommend this book for anyone! The images are gorgeous and the story is heartwarming.

Thursday, October 13, 2016

Fun and Easy Halloween Treats

Chocolate and pretzels are just a sure fire winning combination! It's one of my favorite because it combnines the classic sweet and salty. And I was surprised how super easy it is to make at home!

Your basic ingredients are...

  • melting chocolate (you can find it at craft stores in all kinds of colors)
  • pretzels
  • wax paper
  • a fork
And the basic recipe is...
  • Melt chocolate per instructions on the bag.
  • Dip pretzels in the melted chocolate
  • Use a fork to remove pretzel from chocolate and place on wax paper
  • Chill
There are some great way to personalize and turn this simple recipe into something for any holiday or occassion. 

Make cute little jack-o-lantern ones by using orange melting chocolate and adding a green M&M as a stem, Apply when the chocolate is still wet! 

Turn your pretzel treat into a zombie or alien. Use white or even green melting chocolate to cover the pretzel. Then after you placed it onto the wax paper, fill the holes in with different colors for the eyes. You can even add different color sprinkles or candy eyeballs!

These fun treats are sure to go fast. Like scarey fast! 

Thursday, October 6, 2016

Chinese Tents of Love

They sound like something a couple would rent for a romantic getaway.  They are so not that.

In China these "Tents of Love" are starting to show up on university campuses. And no they are not for students. They are for parents.

Yes the parents. As a way to help students and parents transition to living away for the first time, colleges are allowing parents to stay on campus, in a tent so they can be near by. Is this the ultimate in helicopter parenting?

I remember when I left home for university. This was the first time I was moving away from home. I went to UCSB and my parents drove up in my Dad's truck and I drove my little white Dodge Neon. I remember singing "Wide Open Spaces" by the Dixie Chicks. It just felt right.

We moved all my stuff in and by the later afternoon my parents said "later" and drove home. There was hugs, kisses, advice given but they left. No part of them wanted to stay in a tent in the parking lot and I didn't want them to,

So why is this idea of "tents of love" popping up all over China? One theory is that thanks to laws that limit the number of children families can have at 1 it's harder for parents to let go. And because they are growing up as only children it's harder for students to let go!

As a college student would you have wanted your parents to stay on campus for a few days? As a parent would you sleep in a tent in the gym when your child goes to college?

Tuesday, October 4, 2016

Kindergarten Blues: Embracing Homework

My almost five year old began transitional kindergarten wanting nothing to do with homework...

A few things that worked for us to turn this attitude around:

• Pick a usual spot to do work and keep work - this spot they may dread for a little while but before you know it they independently gravitate to this space at homework time. It helps to pick the same time of day to do homework daily.
• Have a cooperative older child set the example - the key here is having an independent child work in front of the child and not distract the apprehensive little one.
• Celebrate even the smallest wins - my husband would chant excitedly after all small victories. He'd say "you got this" and suddenly my little one would say to me "don't help me mom... I got this!"

Those tips seem simple enough and yet they may not work right away.

Keep in mind, a child will be frazzled if you are. The most important thing here is to keep your cool and stay patient even when you find yourself frustrated by homework woes.  It is most critical  that they enjoy homework time eventually and this will happen at whatever speed works best for them. Plus, you don't want to create a mood of resistance for homteurk year after year based on how the time was set early on!

Thursday, September 29, 2016

School Apps

So school is now in full swing. We have settled into our routine. In our house my oldest went from homeschool to full-time junior high this year. It was a big transition but she is doing great and loving school. The charter school she is at uses the website PowerSchool to record grades and communicate with parents. There is even an app for my phone.

The app is up to the minute and even will send a notification to me through my phone if my child's grade has gone up or down. I thought this was going to be awesome and a great way for me to make sure my junior higher is staying on track and see what things she is studying and what assignments are due and when. 

And this is a great idea, but when left in the hands of a completely obsessive Mom like me it is too much. There was one time when a teacher must have been inputting grades at like 11 at night because at the time, my phone dinged and I got a notification that my kids English grade had dropped from a 100% to an 80%. This was a big drop and I had to get up and look over her assignments and even email the teacher. Yes all this at 11pm. 

When I was in school my Mom only knew what my grades were when reports cards came out. I am seeing my kids grades in real time! I find myself opening and checking this app as much as I do my Instagram! Although this app is suppose to help parents stay informed. It's stressing me out! 

Thursday, September 22, 2016

Are Donut Walls the New Cupcake Wedding Cake?

Thanks to Pinterest people are planning beautiful and over the top weddings. We have seen trends like wooden signs, puzzle piece guest books, cupcake wedding cakes. Of course things have to evolve and new trends are showing up all the time. So if you planning a wedding or fancy party in the near future let me introduce you to.....

The Donut Wall

Yup by using a wall and pegs you can display these yummy fried treats in a super cute way. Gone is the pink pastry box on the table.

You can color coordinate frosting with your wedding colors.

Now I don't recommend frosted donuts outside on a hot day. You're just asking for dripping chocolate.

And you can believe that you will find lots of selfies with the donut wall when you look through your custom wedding day hashtag on Instagram!

Tuesday, September 20, 2016

Homework Organizer and Other Tips to Keep you Sane!

For the first time ever I have all of my children in grade school. Once I got over the initial sting of melancholy,  I was already running to keep up with three sets of homework, three teachers' announcements, two separate elementary school drop-offs,  and a flurry of emails. On top of having to keep up with it all, I am a firm believer in volunteering in my children's classrooms. This means carving out time in my workday to be in each of the their classrooms once a month, for some grade levels, even more!

As homework assignments began to flood my virtual and "living room inbox" I began to get myself organized which is the KEY to keeping everyone sane. First things first, for only a few bucks you can buy wall hooks, multicolor maniela folders and a large dry erase wall calendar. Next, dedicate any corner of your home to hang backpacks using wall hooks and empty out backpacks. Then use the folders to have you (or your children) engage in the daily ritual of sorting paperwork. Quite easily you or child should get in the habit of ensuring whatever paperwork is homework is placed in the urgent red folder with their name written in big bold letters or announcements such as picture day order forms are placed in yellow folder (again with their name on it if you have more than one kiddo in school). You can also use a green folder to store all completed work that comes home. For even a few more bucks you can install hanging wall files (one per child)  to store folders, but that's not absolutely necessary.

Next, take time to visually map out important due dates and commitments on a dry erase calendar placed in the same homework sorting corner. How easy is it to on the spot write due dates on a calendar as you read notices? My three children have gotten to the point of having daily assignments and larger one-time due dates that are scattered through the week, which means we have to write it down for all to see or we will all it forget.

This sounds simple enough but having these simple rituals unfold in one centralized place of your home makes everything feel smoother in the mornings and organized through the week.

Other tips to staying organized?

• Create email inbox folders per child or a color coded flagging email system (you'll thank me later). Teachers are great with email these days but so are principals, classroom parents, and so on.  With so much to keep track of feel free to sort that system, too! I have so many school emails to sort every single day. I am sure you do too.

• Create a sharable calendar on google! I know you've written down due dates on your written calendar if you're folllowing along, but what about school commitments such as extra-curricular functions or meetings. To keep your household in the know set up a family calendar that's shared and make sure to set up a default reminder warning you of important commitments beforehand. Multiple children means multiple picture days, award assemblies, and so on! Don't miss an important commitment and use this system with built-in reminders to keep more than one important family member in the loop!

Share your best tips too!

Use the comment section below and let us know what's keeping you organized.

Thursday, September 15, 2016

Fróse: Because summer is not over yet!

Technically we still have a week left of summer. Before we say goodbye to Summer 2016, you need to try this sweet frozen treat.

Fróse= yes frozen róse

And the best part is you can change up the flavor by adding any fresh fruit you want! If you have a blender and a bottle of róse you are good to go.

Add 1 cup of cut up frozen watermelon chunks, half a bottle of róse, 1/4 cup of raw sugar and 1/4 teaspoon of salt. Then blend away.

Mix it up with different frozen fruits! Think strawberries, kiwis, pineapple or blueberries!

You can even take some yummy róse and freeze it in an ice cube tray. Thanks to the alcohol the wine will not freeze completely. Then you can smash up and make am "adult" snow cone!

I want to shake the hand of the genius who thought of this!

Enjoy the last week of summer!

Tuesday, September 13, 2016

Anti-Cellulite Cream... does that stuff really work?

So with summer involving plenty of pool time I decided to invest in anti-cellulite cream. Yup, you read that right. I was desperate to tone those troublesome areas. Turns out there's a huge market for these creams online. With Amazon reviews picking one turned into a pretty easy task.

For 12 bucks or so, I settled on something called Hot Cream! And boy does it live up to its name. It's almost like wearing tingling icy-hot all over your thighs. It promises best results once lathered and covered which really elevates the heat intensity. It's tolerable heat, but odd. It also has a very strong smell that can only be compared to a minty eucalyptus odor. It's not a bad smell, but definitely strong. Funny enough this product boasts about being 87% organic.

After a month of use (not consistently but used) I'd say I've seen results. Though I know these results are temporary. If you're interested in a cellulite cream solution know this one works, it takes time, and results aren't permanent.

What are your best beauty tips?

Share yours in the comment section below.

Thursday, September 8, 2016

Apple's Special Event: Introducing the iPhone 7

First off...

Super Mario is coming to the Apple App store!!! Yes we are going to be able to play Super Mario Run on our iPhones sometime before the end of the year!  

Next up there was talk about all the good things Apple is doing. Specifically the ConnectEd, a program that helps bring technology into schools that could otherwise not afford it. Apple is supporting 114 school and donating more than 50,000 ipads to students. They have also created the "Everyone Can Code" program that teaches everyone to code through the Swift Playground app.

There was some talk about iWork and new features on the Apple Watch. Oh and Pokemon Go will be coming to Apple Watch! Also there is a new hiking app called ViewRanger that works even without a signal.

But what we really all wanted to know was..


Well lucky for you I watched the entire event and I have the highlights on the latest and greatest in apple products. 

  • Apple will be releasing the iPhone 7 and iPhone 7+. So just like with 6 you will have the gigantic, doesn't fit in your backpocket option.
  • It will come in 5 colors. Yes 5! Gold, Silver, Rose Gold, Black and a new super fancy super shiny Jet black. 
  • It will come in 3 storage options: 32G, 128G and 256G! 
  • The design of the phone is much more sleek and seamless. 
  • Super awesome feature is that it will be water and dust resistant. Very cool. 
  • The weak speakers of the old iPhone are gone. The new speakers on the 7 and 7+ are two times louder than the old ones! 
  • The camera will now be a 12 megapixel camera and the forward facing one will be a 7 megapixel. Your selfies just got a whole lot better.
  • Now every new iPhone boosts the camera is better and 7 is no exception. What is pretty awesome is that with the 7+ you get 2 cameras. Yes 2. One is a wide angel and the other is a telephoto lens. This always for smooth and crystal clear zoom up to 10 times! Your stalker photos of celebrities will no longer be fuzzy! 
  • Earpod have been changed to a lightning cord, you know like the power cord on 6. So the same jack you plug in your power cord will be the plug for your earpods. Apple will also include a earpod adapter so that you can use old earpods with the new phones. How nice of them, 
  • Now you are probably wondering... what if I want to use my earpods and charge my phone at the same time? Well in late October, Apple will be coming out with "Airpods" and yes they are wireless earpods for your iPhone. They look amazing and come in a cool case that charges them for you. One charge will give you 5 hours of listening time. These babies will set you back $159!
  • The new iPhone will run off the latest in processors. The A10 is twice as fast as the processor in the iPhone 6 and 240 times faster than the processor in the original iPhone! 
  • They have also improved the battery life. The new iPhone 7 will have an average of 2 more hours of life than the 6. 
You can order your new iPhone 7 for $649.00 or 7+ for $769.00 as early as Friday, September 9th. Phones will start shipping out on September 16th. 

So will you be ordering a new iPhone 7? 

Tuesday, September 6, 2016

Netflix Review: Stranger Things

Everyone is binge watching on this one. I mean everyone. Okay, if you haven't stared, you must. Stranger Things premiered midsummer and apparently it took Netflix by storm. This tale is based in the 1980's and hits all the right notes of suspense, 80's nostalgia, and creepy sci-fi.

The story hooks you from episode 1, and with only 8 episodes, it's a weekend take down. I likely finished the series in 36 hours. It's that good. Granted, I didn't sleep much.

Stranger Things tells the tale of a mysterious child disappearance, government conspiracies, and one kick ass little girl named Eleven or "El" for short. The story told weaves mystery, suspense, and real life emotions all into one. It keeps you on the very edge of your seat and every episode is better than the last. It's that good.

I must say its a refreshing story line that brings back the powerhouse that is Winona Ryder and a band of youthful newcomers that steal every scene they're in similar to the classic, ET, Stand by Me, or the more lighthearted, Sandlot.

Tune in and thank me later. Oh and get ready! Season two is slated for a 2017 release that includes 9 sure-to-be thrilling episodes.

What's your favorite Netflix show?

Thursday, September 1, 2016

Alicia Keys is Make Up Free

I first noticed it when she performed at the DNC. Then I started seeing commercials for the new season of The Voice. The I watched the season premier of The Voice and I figured out what was different. She didn't have any makeup on.



And she looked beautiful.

My first thought was "how brave". My next thought was "her skin must be so healthy". I have never been really good at applying makeup, but I still cannot leave my house without mascara and blush. Like ever. Even when we go camping I put on makeup on every morning.

Why? Why do I have this need to cover my face everyday. Alicia Keys stated,

“I don’t want to cover up anymore. Not my face, not my mind, not my soul, not my thoughts, not my dreams, not my struggles, not my emotional growth. Nothing.”

She feels that makeup has a negative impact on women's self esteem, especially young women. This desire to be perfect and the makeup industry make millions on girls covering up their faces. It's amazing how makeup can change your face. I have to admit that I am obsessed with makeup artists snapchat stories. They can completely transform someone. But I think what Ms. Keys is trying to say is, what's wrong with ourselves that we want to transform ourselves. This #nomakeup revolution that Keys is starting is a great reminder to love ourselves.

Thursday, August 25, 2016

#TBT- Dating your Wife: Guest post by Diego Q.

We will be back in September with fresh content for you all! 
Until then enjoy a throwback post! 

Happy to have one of our favorite male contributors on today. Diego Quevedo married to HerMamas' co-creator Irene agreed to a brief interview during their most recent date night (a weekly occurrence in their marriage) and here's what he had to say about Dating His Wife...

Q. Why date (after 8 years of marriage and 11 years together)?

A. Because I'm still trying to get in her pants. No really, to make my wife feel more connected to me which makes it easier to get in her pants. Honestly, with our busy schedules, having spontaneous dates can be difficult. Scheduled dates give us something to look forward to every week.

Q. Describe Your Favorite Date Night?

A: A good meal followed by good conversation and a new experience (i.e. trying a new cuisine together). 

Q. How Do You Mix it Up and Keep Date Night Interesting?

A. Commit to something new every date night. That could be a new restaurant, activity or simply a new city to explore. The newness makes our relationship feel what it did in the beginning... excitement. It is as if we're on a little adventure together.

Q. What's Your Advice For Couples Who Say Routine Date Nights Just Aren't Possible? 

A. Weekly might be too much for some couples. Instead opt for monthly outings. There's always time for each other. Make the time.

Q. You're Known To Also Date Your Kids? Why?

A. For the same reason I date my wife, one-on-one mutually devoted time is crucial to a healthy relationship.

Q. If You Won The Lottery Tomorrow How Would You Spend Your Next Date Night? 

A. Surprise the wife with a "quick" flight to Paris for a lovely dinner at a Parisian Bistro! 

Share your dating tips by commenting below! 
Better yet, interview your significant other and share their tips with us...

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

#WBW- Your Morning Routine

As you may have noticed we have taken an unexpected break from HerMamas. We didn't meant to. We didn't want to but work and life has been so busy for us. All good things, but even good things take up our time. As we get back up and running with new content for you we are going to be bring back blasts from the past with...

This post was originally posted on 9/5/2012!!


Most kids have just gone back to school. Those lazy summer days are gone and now its time for that frantic morning routine! It seems like no matter what time I wake up, I am always rushing. Last school year when my kid got her 5th tardy slip I knew I needed to find a way to make our morning routine run smoother. Here are a few great tips that have helped my kid get to school on time!

  • Lay out clothes the night before. Not just the kids clothes, but everyone’s clothes. Then there is no time wasted trying to figure out what to wear.

  • When it comes to breakfast, know what you are going to make beforehand. I save the things that take time to cook like french toast for the weekend. A bowl of yogurt with fruit or granola is quick and healthy! 

  • If your kids are big cereal eaters you can set up breakfast the night before. Leave a bowl of cereal on the table covered in plastic wrap. Then place a cup of milk in the fridge on a shelf you kid can reach. Then they can serve themselves cereal and you won’t have to worry about a mess.

  • Take showers and baths the night before.

  • Have your kids homework checked and backpack packed and waiting by the door.

  • Pack lunches the night before. You can save even more time by making a weekly lunch menu. I know for me, trying to put together a well-rounded lunch takes me so long. Having it all written out beforehand really saves time. 

  • Stick to a routine. This way you know everything that needs to get done is done. To help my daughter stick to this routine I made a reminder list for the bathroom.    

A smooth morning routine can give you a great start to your whole day! 

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Tuesday, July 19, 2016

Meet Laurie Hernandez

Laurie Hernandez will be traveling to Rio to represent the Red, White and Blue on the USA Women's Gymnastic team. She has become America's Sweetheart. Here are 10 facts about Laurie...

  1. She was born in 2000. Yup she is only 16 years old which makes her one of the youngest Olympian athletes on Team USA. 
  2. She started gymnastics at the age of 5! 
  3. Her real name is Lauren Hernandez.
  4. She is from New Jersey. 
  5. In 2014 she had to have knee surgery. 
  6. Her pre-performance ritual is to place her hand on her belly and feel herself breathe. 
  7. She is Puerto Rican and is the first US-born Latina to make the women's Olympic team since 1994. 
  8. She has been homeschooled since 3rd grade and has aspirations to attend University of Florida
  9. Her nickname is "Human Emoji" because she is so expressive. She is known for her "sass"
  10. When her gymnastic career is over she wants to be an actress. 

Tuesday, July 12, 2016

How Pokemon Go Salvaged Our No Good Very Bad Day

First Blink-182 releases a new album (and a very good one in my opinion!) and now Pokemon is super relevant again. It's like 1991 all over again.

Have you noticed a lot more people wandering your neighborhood with a phone in their hands? Chances are they are playing the new phone app game "Pokemon Go". Just like in the 90's you can now "catch 'em all" but this time with GPS. The game is simple, you wander around looking for Pokemon and for places to earn Pokemon balls to catch them. Most places are churches or community centers and landmarks. Pokemon appear randomly as you travel around.

Now I wasn't a big Pokemon kid. Frankly I was a bit too old for the first go around, but my kids know about it from the card games. Sunday was a rough day for the family. It started with a tantrum by the youngest, then the oldest got sick and we had to cut our weekend vacation short and head home. We were all grumpy and spent the day in separate rooms. By the end of the day I knew we needed something to salvage the day. I had been seeing all these Pokemon Go apps posts on social media, so I downloaded the app and gathered the troops and we got into the car and the hunt was on. Since it was night we opted to drive around, and while Poppa drove the girls and I gave directions and gathered about 7 Pokemon. We had fun and ended what was a rough day on a good note.

So are you playing?

Thursday, July 7, 2016

Black Lives Matter, Period!

The debate is thick. One side thinks all lives matter. But do they really? Whites and Blacks are treated completely different in this country. That's my belief and it isn't anything new, I know. Plus, it's a belief I don't see our country proving wrong any time soon.

It's not about "ALL lives matter" at this point. It's about advocating for Black lives and doing all we can to stand up for their human and god-given right to equality. We've all been impacted by this epidemic, while Black Americans bare the brunt in bloodshed with tragedy after tragedy. Black lives are being ripped from this country as if this was some kind of civil war.

Black citizens lose their freedom, or worse, their lives over minutiae... a speeding ticket, a candy bar, a suspicion. It's utterly outrageous and equally outlandish. Not one person can say this is the case for White America. As a Latina born and raised in Inglewood CA., I can identify with the struggle, but I also CAN'T. 

I can't even begin to image the terror of having my brothers and sisters senselessly murdered at the hands' of police officers sworn to protect. I can't imagine raising a Black teenager and literally fearing for his or her life at the hands' of law enforcement. I can't imagine being subjected to chronic racism by a broken system that has resulted in over 500 innocent lives lost this year alone.

To me, the only time ALL LIVES MATTER is when we are one voice speaking out against the hate crimes inflicted upon our Black brothers and sisters. All lives need to protest, boycott, and demand justice next to our African American citizens, for them, and only them. This is about their lives and their humanity for all of humanity's sake. 

It is not enough to be shocked by the viral videos, speak around the watercooler because of the latest TV actor who stirs us with a passion for change, or secretly share our distaste for the hatred and DO NOTHING ELSE. 

Latinos, Asians, Blacks, Whites... on and on must unite to fight for the Black Lives Matter movement. Enough with being bystanders in the struggle. Speak up and speak loudly to demand the change required in this country. This is a deeply broken and systemic issue that only ends if all citizens stand together to declare ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

Act  Now. Act Today.

Ways to join and strengthen the BLACK LIVES MATTER movement! 

Tuesday, June 14, 2016

Trips Not Gifts

In my house we have birthday season. My husband and oldest daughter have the same birthday and my youngest is 10 days later. At this time every year I would to contemplate what we are going to get them for their birthday. I was always pricing the latest gadget or toy that I just knew will be left in a pile in the playroom in just a few months. I know that I am going to spend a lot of money on things. Frankly things they just don't need. So I made up my mind that for my birthday crew we are going to do trips and not gifts. Take the money that we would have spent on a party and presents and go somewhere we have never gone before.

This year we headed to the Central Coast of California. More specifically, Morro Bay and Monterey Bay. My youngest is obsessed with sea otters and so I researched the best places to see them in the wild and Morro Bay was at the top of the list. We spent 4 days seeing just how beautiful the California coast is. We not only saw sea otters, but we got to see elephant seals. We stayed in hotels and took a dip in the pool. We had some great meals and our last stop was to the Monterey Bay Aquarium where we took a behind the scenes tour of the sea otter rescue center.

These 4 days were amazing and weeks later my kids are still talking about it. I know that this will be a trip and birthday they will never forget. Now...where to next year?

Friday, June 10, 2016


Last week I read the 12 page statement that the victim of the Stanford rapist read to the judge. It was a rough read and I can't believe that this young woman had the strength to stand up and read this.

Like most of the world I am outraged with the judge's sentence and disgusted with the rapists father statements. As I read more about this rapist and his background it was clear to see that he belongs to the generation of kids who are being treated like royalty and given anything and everything they want without questions. So the idea of consent may have been hard for this spoiled brat to understand.

Thankfully a police department made a video that helps anyone understand what consent means...

Friday, June 3, 2016

You know you're getting old when....

... You throw your back out doing Zumba (true story, not proud)! 

... Know one quite gets your slang. I just yelled MODED in a staff meeting and the early 20- somethings looked puzzled.

... Babies just don't do it for you anymore. Instead of 'oohing and awwing' you're ready to hand the little alien back at the first squirm.

.... You can't make it through a night on the town without swollen feet and a hunkering for street dogs, tacos, or both.

.... You spend more time organizing closets and shelves than applying makeup or shopping.

... You ask anyone and everyone to help you manage a simple remote. 

... The hottest celebrity and A-list movie stars could have been your child or every hot guy you ever crushed on has grandkids and gray hairs -Ugh!

... You have to use the zoom feature on your PC to type and read!

... You only have the strength to type a list of 9 "you know you're getting old" lines and nothing more!

Share your personal "you know you're too old" lines 
in the comment section below!

Wednesday, June 1, 2016

Jet Blue Rewards Crying Babies

Flying with a baby anytime soon? 

SCARY! Well, at least for parents, oh who am I kidding, passengers get scared too. Who hasn't spotted the big eyes on flyers watching a baby enter the plane, likely thinking, "I hope that baby doesn't cry the whole flight!"

For parents, flying with child is one of those moments you pray all the Gods are in your favor. I know firsthand the angst of hoping everything goes well so you didn't find yourself with a stuffy infant, crying due to cabin pressure, and yelling into strange earlobes while you're buried in the middle seat. Boy, I've seen and experienced the process. It's a process that includes navigating a small plane aisle with the largest diaper bag known to man, carting a bigger than average baby, and enduring a combination of sad eyes and annoyed stares from sympathizers and judgy-types alike. The latter really having NO CLUE. Because don't you just appreciate non-parents judging parents?

... NOT!

They don't have a clue how hard this all really is. Parenthood isn't easy and carting a baby on an airplane will teach you that in less than a millisecond. Now, I don't know if the following scenario was real, but the level of baby acceptance and incentivized understanding meant everything to me.

Thank you Jetblue, thank you!


Monday, May 30, 2016

Kids Cheat Sheet: Democrats versus Republicans

My kid came home the other day to chat about how racist Donald Trump is. He really knew nothing about him other than what kids were saying at school and the fact that he didn't want him to be president. Now I don't care to defend "The Donald" but it wouldn't be fair to leave the judgment of racist as a stand along opinion. I asked my son what he knew about Mr. Trump and he knew very little, but could describe him as republican. He then asked me to define democrat versus republican and boy was I stumped. Stumped because everything that came to mind was not quite appropriate for a 9 year old such as pro-life versus pro-choice.

In this moment, my son really wanted one of the two to be the good one versus the bad one and the right one versus the wrong one. To me that didn't teach him anything. So I quickly googled how to explain political parties to children and this nifty video popped up.

The video is perfectly simplified, but doesn't make anything necessarily wrong. When talking to my child about the topic I wanted him to remember civic engagement was important. He also should strive to be an informed and active voter. In time I am sure he'll decide for himself what party is best, maybe even one not represented by an elephant or donkey. 

Thursday, May 26, 2016

The French Now Have The Right to Disconnect

How many weekends or vacations have been ruined because of a work email? Okay maybe not too many. But how much of your off-time is spent checking work email or worrying if the boss emailed you something important? Is it easy for you to leave work at work or does the ding on your phone send your stress levels up?

I was recently on a 2 day mini vacation. I do not have my work email setup on my personal cell phone. But I can still use my internet browser and log-in to my work email. I did really good up until the last day and I just had to check. The moment I did my mind was back at the office.

The French government understands how employees can easily get job-related burnout because they are always connected.

“All the studies show there is far more work-related stress today than there used to be, and that the stress is constant,” Benoit Hamon of the French National Assembly told the BBC earlier this month. “Employees physically leave the office, but they do not leave their work. They remain attached by a kind of electronic leash-- like a dog. The texts, the messages, the emails -- they colonize the life of the individual to the point where he or she eventually breaks down."

The El Kohmri labor labor law will make it illegal for companies with more than 50 employees to email their employees after typical work hours. As of now there are no penalties for not following this law so companies are really only doing this voluntarily. This new law will also change the current 35 hour work week and is said to help with the high unemployment rate in France. Of course there are two sides on this labor reform. While some are fighting for a fair work/life balance, others are fighting to help the French economy flourish.

What do you think about this "right to disconnect"? 
Do you think laws like this can help people relieve some stress in their lives? 

Monday, May 16, 2016

Unicorn Moms

The other day I came across a term to describe a Mom I had never heard before. Now I thought I had heard them all, but "Unicorn Mom" stumped me. I had to google it. Turns out a Unicorn Mom is.....

I think I might be a little bit of a Unicorn Mom. I am by no means perfect. Let me give you my kids hair and clothes for an example. Where one Mom might stress over every outfit and hairstyle, I am just happy if my kids walk out of the house in clean clothes and hair. Most days my 11 year old is dressed like a homeless person and my 6 year old's hair usually looks pretty disheveled. You should see my house. June Cleaver I am not. Most days there are toys strewn all over the house and there is pretty much dirty dishes in my sink 100% of the time. Laundry baskets are always full and my bathroom counters almost always have toothpaste on them.

And enjoys alcohol? Well I may or may not be writing this with a glass of moscato in my hand. I do like myself a good drink. I usually prefer fruity but sometimes a ice cold beer will hit the spot. Just the other day I tried one of those new hard cherry colas. Not bad.

Sense of humor? I think I'm pretty funny. But most importantly I can find the humor in most situations. When the kids spill a brand new box of cereal all over the floor I can laugh, well because crying isn't going to do much.

And not caring what people think? Well I know how we parent our kids is not everyone's cup of tea. And people may think we are crazy to homeschool our kids. But in my heart I know it's the best thing for us so others opinion do not matter.

As for the Bitch and Zero F#&ks given. Well that a bit vulgar for me. Maybe I'm just part Unicorn Mom. 

Wednesday, May 11, 2016

New On Netflix This Month

 Is there anything better than having a lazy day that is all about Netflix and Chill? And by Chill I mean actually chilling. Every month Netflix takes away some titles but also adds some new ones.

This month there are some great old movies that you would love to revisit again.

  • Sixteen Candles: A classic 80's flick just in time for prom season. Molly Ringwald is the weird girl who has a crush on the hot Jake Ryan. We have the lovable dork and slightly racist Long Duck Dong. All characters that embody the 1980's. 
  • Pleasantville: How about a young Toby Maguire in Pleasantville? Teens from the 90's have a mishap with  television remote and find themselves stuck in a black and white 1950's sitcom. Can they bring some color into the 50's and more importantly will they make it back? 
  • The Nutty Professor: This is one of my family's favorites. I mean who doesn't like to clap and say "Hercules! Hercules! " Eddie Murphy plays almost every character and is hilarious as each and every one. I even love the message in this movie. It's what's on the inside that counts. 
  • Just Friends: I forgot how much I liked this movie until I saw it on Netflix. Chris Brander, played by the handsome Ryan Reynolds, comes back to his hometown as a sexy successful guy. While home he is forced to remember his awkward high school years as a chubby geek. He reconnects with Jamie, a girl he loved who totally friend-zoned him. This is such a cute and sweet rom-com!
What older films do you love to revisit once in awhile? 

Friday, May 6, 2016

Be A Bad Mom

... Well not really, but enjoy the fantasy, and relate to the "struggle" while enjoying Mila Kunis' new film 'Bad Moms'. In the film's trailer, she clearly nails the whole "I am tired of trying to be perfect" meltdown and goes on a hilarious ride with Kristen Bell and Ana Gasteyer in her pursuit of breaking the mold.

How do you feel about this film's premise? Overdone or dead on? Hilarious or just another bit that pokes fun at the pressures of motherhood? 

For me, I believe the movie will likely bring the funny in a way that only overly committed mommas can understand, but I could also see the exhaggerated stance on perfect moms being stepford wives and dads being MIA. After all, the trailer didn't highlight one dad from what I could tell. This day in age, the support fathers play in running a household can be severely downplayed. I am interested to see how this comedy captures the dad piece.

Will you watch?

Wednesday, May 4, 2016

$5 Million for Too Much Ice

How many iced drinks have you had at Starbucks? Maybe hundreds? Have you ever picked up your
drink, taken some sips only to only be left with a cup full of ice and no coffee. Well a women in Illinois, after 10 years of buying drinks, has had enough. She is suing Starbucks for $5 million dollars. Yup $5 million for too much ice.

Now maybe she has a point. A Venti iced  coffee is advertised as 24 ounces, but in reality you are getting 14oz of coffee and 10 oz of ice cubes. Well that kinda sounds like a rip-off. But at the same time you are ordering an "iced" beverage. Ice is right in the title. And really Starbucks is great at customizing orders. If I walked in and ordered an iced coffee, light on the ice, they would make it for me.

These kind of lawsuits are ridiculous. I mean this lady went to Starbucks for 10 years. Ordered her iced drinks for 10 years and when a lawyer mentioned there was a potential for a profit a law suit is filed. Where is this $5 million coming from? I sure hope this lady has not spent that much in coffee in 10 years.

So what is going to be the outcome? I think our Starbucks orders will get even more complicated.

"Venti ice coffee, coconut milk, extra shot of espresso, 2 pumps of sugar free vanilla and 5 ice cubes" 

Wednesday, April 27, 2016

Leave Chrissy Teigen Alone!

Chrissy Teigen had her first baby less than 2 weeks ago. She named her beautiful daughter Luna and has shared a few beautiful photos on social media. And then a few days ago Chrissy went out to dinner with her husband and the internet lost its mind.

People were so upset over the idea of a woman leaving her baby for a few hours to get a meal with her husband so soon after giving birth.

Seriously here are some of the things people told her....

Is this a fair argument? Should she been getting so much slack because she left a newborn home alone. I really think that this is a classic example of how women are expected to be everything to everyone. Women are expected to keep their marriage and their husbands happy. But at the same time they need to stay home and raise the kids 24/7. If she announced she was quitting her career to be a stay-at-home Mom people who be upset that she is giving up her hopes and dreams.

Living in the spotlight makes celebrities open targets for criticism but in this case I feel like this is such harsh criticism. I mean she went to dinner. There are some Moms who have to or choose to go to work right after a baby is born. Chances are Baby Luna was with a Grandparent and slept the entire time her parents got some well deserved alone time and hot meal.

What do you think? Was this new mom judged unfairly? 

Sunday, April 24, 2016

Beyoncé's Visual Album (Lemonade) is EVERYTHING!

Yes, a visual album because this is queen B after all. You'd be living under a rock if you didn't catch wind of Beyoncé's surprise album release which was both a full length album and an hour long music video depicting every song through imagery and deeply profound lyrics.

Lyrics led everyone to believe Beyoncé has been severely cheated on, forgiven set cheating, and eventually focused on the bigger issue at hand: #blacklivesmatter. Beyoncé is this generation's icon and she knows how to break the Internet. In fact, I recently asked a group of 20 somethings who would be their Michael, Whitney or Prince to which they unanimously replied, Beyoncé. She's a legend.

If you're in the rare minority that hasn't heard or seen Lemonade, check out the new album and visual film exclusively on Tidal (or all over social media) and enjoy these hilarious memes after you've done so...

What did you think of Beyoncé's album #lemonade?