Friday, June 26, 2015

Happy Sex Life

Perhaps I'm married to your typical guy, but he loves sex. Luckily, he's totally crazy about me and I've felt desired since he first laid his kinky eyes on me over a decade ago. It's thrilling to feel desired, but that doesn't mean I am automatically drawn to constant intimacy.

If you're someone like me who means well but doesn't always get around to doing the deed here are some fun and must-do tips to keep a happy sex life going:

1. Pencil it in. Not spontaneous sure, but at least it's happening. Besides it's easy to plan sex in in a way that is sexier than writing it on your to-do list. In this day and age you can send a sexy text describing exactly what your lover is in for. Not only is this exciting to them, but they sure as heck won't let you back down. So no matter how tired you are, you should be reved-up by your partner who is surely excited at this point. The important point here... don't text anything you're not actually willing to follow through on. Big no, no there.

2. Don't give in to lame excuses. There's nothing less sexy than a woman (or man) who claims they're tired, have a headache, or for women, it's that time of the month and really it isn't. Too many of these excuses and your partner is sure to pick up on your lack of desire. If you find yourself avoiding intimacy and making excuses something deeper is at play and you owe it to yourself to get answers. Maybe you're not satisfied by your current sex life or maybe you're self-conscious of your own body? The reasons are plentiful, but whatever it is, communicate with your partner. It might be awkward, but it's 1000% worth it. Now, for the fun part, what if you really do have a headache? Do something different in the bedroom - give each other messages, find a way to relax and connect and be honest... express a desire for a sex-less, but intimate night nonetheless. Set the mood and connect by touch, with words or beautiful scents and sounds (candles, music). 

3. Stop wasting time. Your lover won't be young forever. Maybe we think there's all the time in the world to get it right. Well, flip that script and tell yourself time is escaping you. A beautiful sex life and session of lovemaking should never wait.  Plus, it's an honor to have the love and intimacy so many crave, so get after it and devour your partner one beautiful night at a time. With this in mind, you might find yourself being more spontaneous or adventurous in the bedroom. And there's the next fun idea... experiment, mix things up, and don't be too bashful to try something new. 

Need a little inspiration? Check out this quote from an article called The Art of the Tease: 

"Great sex is derived from out-of-control frustration, heaps of joy, thrilling recklessness, vehement disagreement (and yes love, of course), anything that pulls the passion out of you. Otherwise sex is as empty as a reality TV show — something to numb out to that you will forget 10 minutes after consuming."
With that said, go let off some stream and pour your frustrations, joy, recklessness and love all over your partner! 

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