On Monday's post we discussed a topic that touched on self-acceptance. A message that also included redefining society's norms of beauty. I got to thinking about my own tendencies to feed into bad habits like "feeling the pressure to fit in." I thought about three areas of my life that can almost be addictions. I use the word addiction because bad habits are addictions. We have to break those habits, and in turn, break the addictions for ourselves and the generations that follow.
I have three areas that I am always striving to improve in my life to avoid passing these "addictions" on to my children because as we all know children are always watching. I want what they see to be the best example...
The first "addiction" may sound silly but it's a common habit of my generation. I'd hate to debilitate my children by having them carry it on. In today's world, we are so interconnected by devices and social media. I understand that I have the habit of not only "living" on social media though chronic posting, but I'm subsequently buried behind a laptop or smartphone. I don't want this to be normal to my children because as I recently read: "technology cannot replace love". Social media and electronics can be like another "limb" attached to our bodies. It's a huge part of my day, but this virtual world has ZERO connection to true and profound love. My heart is filled with joy thanks to three amazing children, a loving husband, family and friends. Therefore, I remain conscious of my social media and technology use in order to avoid an addictive pattern that carries over into my children's lives.
Food, Food and more Food! Whether folks care to admit it, many of us are addicted to food. Growing up I was a huge over-eater. Food was love in our family; it still is. My momma cooks up a mean feast. We also soothed our crazed emotions through food. This is such a common part of society. Like with any addiction, admitting it is an essential first step to overcoming it. I've been a "normal" body weight for a handful of years after 30+ on this earth. It wasn't until I understood that for me food fed an emotional void, and how bad of a habit over-eating was, that I was able to break the addiction. Past eating habits left me unhealthy, unhappy and lethargic. This is clearly something I don't want my children to carry on. By becoming conscious of daily eating habits, I am breaking this addiction of using food for comfort, staying healthy and ensuring my children don't develop food issues, too.
The final "addiction" is another biggie and it has to do with one's nagging tendency to care what other's think of them. Why do we always want to fit in anyhow? We're hoping to fit in to be "approved of" and that's the kicker. We all at some point or another feel the insecurities of being judged. Caring about what other's think of us is a common addiction. It becomes a senseless worry and it's a real pain in the rear. I've evolved a lot in this area, but that doesn't mean I don't work on it daily. It's hard to let go of a chronic habit of caring what other's think, but once you do it's liberating for you and grateful generations to come. Not caring about how I'm perceived has led to an inner-confidence, a heightened ability to be honest, a need to surround myself with good quality relationships and it makes me a much better mother. It's truly a great habit worth BREAKING! You're welcome for that, next gen.
What addictions are you hoping NOT to pass on to your offspring?