I've always thought the answer to this question was "yes... of course." Then I reflect and realize the only guy friend I have is my husband. Now, I do have a few male co-workers past and present that I've considered friends, but co-workers are almost in our lives by default (no offense co-worker pals). Truth be told, I've never had a guy friend that was nothing more than a just a friend. I can see looking back that most "just friends" situations ended with one or both of us expressing an attraction that went beyond friendship.
Honestly, this attraction ruined perfectly good friendships. I had a guy in my life many moons ago who I just enjoyed spending time with. He was such fun and the most reliable go-to-guy. Then he dropped the bomb and not that I didn't suspect it. He said he loved me. I knew he didn't necessarily love me, but he wanted to be removed from the friend-zone, stat. This was especially tough because after I said I knew what his feelings were and I didn't feel the same, we lost our natural friendship. Things became awkward and I resented him for that.
My husband believes wholeheartedly that men and women aren't ever just friends. Of course there can be exceptions: a gay man and a woman can definitely be friends, couples where husbands and wives (or unmarried couples) become close can be honest to goodness friends, but other than that, men and women are usually into each other for reasons which will eventually blossom into more than friendship.
Could it be? Is there no such thing as platonic male/female friendships? Do those friendships eventually lead to attraction and coupling relationships? We'd love to hear from our readers on this topic...
Do you believe a gal and a guy can be platonic friends and nothing else? Why or why not?