Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Keeping It Real: Eating My Words

Before I had kids, I threw around big statements about what things would be like when I had kids.  I had these grand ideas about how I would raise my kids......

And then I had kids and there I was eating my words.

  • No TV until they are 2 years old:  Before I had my kids I read all these articles about how awful TV was for a baby under 2 years old. I talked about how my children would not watch any television until well after their 3rd birthday. Just writing that makes me literally LOL. Not only did I put my babies in front of a television well before they turned 2, but I swear my oldest learned how to count from Dora the Explorer.
  • Educational Toys Only: B.K. (before kids) I made a big stink about how my kids would only play with educational toys. Only toys that taught them something. My kids were not going to have a room filled with useless things. Let us fast forward about 9 years. My children literally have a room that is only for their outrageous amounts of useless toys. I can try to make myself feel better and justify the educational benefits of a massive collection of Littlest Pet Shop dolls but I can't. 
  • Breast is Best: I work in the nutrition field around dietitians, so I naturally assumed that I would exclusively breastfeed my kids for the first year. I took a breastfeeding class and didn't even bother buying bottles or even pacifiers. My kids were going to get the breast and only the breast. After having my kids, my body had other plans. Like plans to not produce enough breast milk. I struggled for over 6 months with my both of my kids. I tried it all: mothers milk tea, pumping every hour, drinking a beer, drinking lots of water, and even prescribed medication and I could never produce more than half an ounce in a full day. In the end, both my girls were basically formula fed. 
  • No Gender Roles: Growing up for me was all about big poofy dresses and ribbons in our long hair, and I hated it. I always said that when I had kids I would never dress them according to gender stereotypes. I really stuck to this with my first kid. My oldest daughter dressed pretty evenly from the girls section and the boys section. And then I had my second daughter and because I knew this would probably be my last child, I could not fight the urge to dress her in the pinkest, poofiest, girliest dresses I could find. For her first birthday she literally wore all pink from head to tow with a pink tutu. 
Becoming a parent really made me realize how naive I was. 
Has there ever been a time when you had to eat your words, too? 

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