Friday, February 14, 2014

How Love Changes You (and other feel good feelings for a Happy Valentine's Day)

I have this habit of dreading holidays. I didn't know this about myself until today. As I drove to Costco to order a cake for my son's 7 1/2 birthday (yes, we celebrate halves) I was feeling overwhelmed by my list of to-dos which had to be accomplished before his after-school party with pals (about 50 pals!). Then my husband came to mind. He's reading a great book called the The Power of Now and as he's read I've learned so much. He's shared insights and lessons. One such lesson was how we have to love the now and how we have to "love the grind!"  The grind being anything we're doing in the moment. When I reflected on that moment in time, I realized there was nothing to be anxious or stressed about. My kid was feeling like a rock star in anticipation of his 7 & a 1/2 birthday. As a summer kid the last thing he gets in school is a big hoopla. But he deserves it! So I'm making it happen for him. I'm that mom. The cool mom who will shuffle large pizzas, birthday cake and lead 50 kids in a wonderfully loud happy birthday serenade! What's there not to look forward to and LOVE about that? Suddenly, my list of to-dos felt so minuscule. I loved the grind of being the mother I AM! Suddenly, I loved the grind of being married to the man I married. A man who learns and grows and in the process makes me BETTER! Love makes me better! 

I asked other HerMamas.com readers to share with us how LOVE has made them better, too!  Here are a few of their beautifully thoughtful answers:


Love has made me a better person. I always thought that the old saying "first you must love yourself before you can love others" was just a tired cliche. But it's so true! It's sad to say that for the first time in my 30 something years, I've just now learned to love me for who and what I am. And boy does that change everything! My 19 year old step daughter just got married, something no one in her family wanted. Had this happened last year I would have never gone to her wedding. I would have been so upset and angry unable to see past it. I'm happy to say that even though I still think she should have waited, I joined her on her special day, helped her into her dress, I put flowers in her hair and watched my love walk her down the aisle. Where before my lack of knowing what TRUE LOVE is I would have missed out on all these special moments. Loving yourself TRULY does come first and it TRULY does change everything for the better. - Brenda, Van Nuys, CA.

Seeing the world through my daughter's eyes is happiness in it's finest form. The love shared between my husband and I brings me so much joy, comfort & friendship. It's simply a feeling that can't be described by words alone. The feeling of love is immeasurable.  Love is a gift. Experiencing love in it's purest & rawest form makes me a happier person, ready to give that same gift to others.  - Linda, Lakewood, CA.

I feel that love has made me become myself - the person I was meant to be. My early adult life I spent looking for companionship and the moment I found it it was like a slap in the face. I knew the moment I looked at my partner that he would be the father of my children. I felt an overwhelming joy to spend time with him and still do. When I became a mother I experienced a different kind of love - a love that is pure and selfless. It made me want to be a better person for my children and it made me want to be proud of myself so that my sons can also be proud to call me their mother.  - Regina, Hawthorne, CA.


"I've learned to love myself and everyone around me. Love is highly contagious! Like MLK said, 'Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.' Loving God and wanting to be loved by him also inspires me to be a better person with my words & actions throughout my daily encounters/experiences." - Maury, Inglewood, CA.

How Does Love (from a partner, child, parent, self, etc.) Make You Better?!?! 
Share your feel good thoughts and comment below.
Come on' it's Valentine's Day... Do share!

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