Thursday, February 20, 2014

Be Sorry and Be Better - Admitting When You're Wrong

I grew up in a family of fearless fighters. We battled our points-of-views until the bitter end. There was no admitting defeat, failure, or worse, that we could actually be wrong. With my children, I'm striving to be different.

This better isn't automatic.

Just tonight I blew up at my son. I yelled like a madwoman and probably because I spent two plus hours dealing with three very non-cooperative children. It was just one of those nights where each of my children revolted at every possible option. 

"No, I refuse to wear blue socks." "No, I refuse to clean up my mess." No, I refuse your help getting dressed." On and on went the combative exchanges and then I snapped. My son managed to complain about 4 things in less than 60 seconds. So I was done. I yelled my lungs off and ranted about how all his whining and complaining was a waste of time, energy & positivity. I went overboard. His little eyes filled with tears and he said, "I want my loving mom back!"

That was my cue. Soon I apologized for my behaviors and reminded him that we are not our actions. This didn't mean he was off the hook (nor was I). He shouldn't have behaved  in a whining manner with chronic complaints and I shouldn't have erupted.

We were both wrong, and as the adult, I was most guilty. I reminded my son of my imperfections but also of my emotions. Bottom line, everyone's emotions matter and everyone can control their emotions. I was wrong and I told him I was.

By the end of the night we were actually both laughing at my yelling fit and he was "practicing his patience" (his words not mine). It is okay to admit you're human when dealing with your children. They learn just as much through our personal  victories as they do our failures.

Do you believe it's okay to admit your parental mistakes to your children? 
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