Friday, January 10, 2014

A Father Doing the Parenting is Not A Big Deal

It seems like everyday some kind of crazy picture goes viral. But when Doyin Richards posted this photo he did not expect the aftermath.


What do you think when you see this photo?

Many will look at this picture and be amazed that a father is wearing the baby while combing his daughters hair. Many people will think this man is exceptional, an exception to the norm. Let's face it, if a woman posted this photo it would not have made even a ripple on the internet. When Doyin posted this photo he not only got those comments but other hurtful and racial comments. Along with this picture Doyin posted a blog post called "I Have A Dream: That People Will View a Picture Like This and Not Think It's a Big Deal".

If you walk into our house on any weekday morning you will find this exact scene. You will find my husband braiding hair, brushing teeth, making breakfast and working on homeschooling projects with our kids. And I will be gone, away at the office. This is our normal everyday life. When people see or hear about this the most common reply I get it, "you are so lucky to have such an involved partner!". Whenever my husband hears this it upsets him. He does not think he is doing anything but his fair share of parenting. He hates the idea that society thinks men are not capable of parenting, (he even wrote a little about it HERE) or that parenting is not manly. My husband believes that when a man parents his children he does not deserve a medal, unless of course Mom gets one too. It is just what you do when you become a parent.

We want to hear your opinion on this? 
What do you think about this photo and the controversy it has sparked? 

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