Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Pretty Little Liars

Recently I caught my daughter in a lie. It wasn't anything major, but it was a straight lie to my face and she kept up the lie until she realized that there was no way out and she fessed up. I was so shocked and upset because my child was being dishonest. I had to take a moment and remind myself that all kids are going to lie once in a while and it was my job as the parent to make sure that my daughter does not become a constant liar.

There are a few reasons why a child might lie...

  • fear of being punished for doing something wrong
  • when bragging to or trying to impress other people
  • when trying to avoid a task they do not want to do
  • fear of disappointing a parent or teacher
  • to get attention. 
In the case with my daughter she was lying to avoid being punished for something she had done wrong. When your child lies to you or gets in trouble at school for lying here are some tips for handling this situation. 
  • Don't give power to the lie! This means do not overreact. This may be hard to do because we tend to be very hurt and upset. 
  • Explain to your child that telling one lie always leads to another lie and so on. 
  • Remind them that trust is earned and that by lying to people they will find it hard to trust them in the future. 
  • Set the example. Many parents will throw out an occasional lie within an earshot of their child. Something as simple as lying about your child's age to get the discounted rate is sending the wrong message to your child. 
  • Most children know that lying is forbidden, but what they don't always understand is that lying is hurtful. Talk to your child and make sure they understand that lying hurts others. 
The goal to to make sure that the next time your child is faced with the decision to tell the truth or to lie, they chose the truth. 

What is your advice for dealing with a child that lies? 
Leave a comment! 

1 comment:

  1. My step daughter lies quiet often and so after reading this, I’m definitely going to try some of these tips. I think for us what makes it harder is that she tends to lie about what she does at her mom’s house versus our house. We have different parenting styles, different rules and bigger family which I’m sure is hard for her but that’s a whole other topic lol. For a while, I started to think, wow you mom lets you get away with anything but then I said okay, I’m going to call and ask her. She quickly changed her story lol


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