Thursday, April 11, 2013

Mother-in-law from HELL

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I just have to get this off my chest. My mother-in-law has to be the meanest person on earth. Since day one of my marriage to her son (probably before), I've dealt with her attitude and constant criticism. She thinks her way is the best way at everything.

We have a two year old and everything I do for her is criticized or condemned by my MIL. She literally starts sentences with "you're doing it wrong..." And it doesn't help that she watches our daughter once sometimes up to three times a week. We need the child care and she loves our princess. At least her granddaughter deserves some love.

But is love for our daughter enough? And what the hell is her problem? Bitter old hag! Okay, that was mean too. Glad this is anonymous!

I digress, my MIL gets to be so rude all because "that's just the way she is" or "she means well." I hear that from everyone who knows her and how I feel about the situation. But that doesn't help. My poor husband gets stuck in the middle of it all trying to appease her and me. He has stood up for me and of course she totally backpedals and never really acts remorseful.

But don't get it twisted, as they say! I'm a strong woman so I stand up for myself too, but for respect to my husband I express things civilly. I wonder if that's getting me anywhere. I'd never want to feed into battling against her judgements or her bitter approach, but my sanity could be compromised.

Okay, just venting feels good, but I need some solutions. How do I deal with this woman's attitude and keep it together myself? Please help!

4 comments:

  1. Don't get me started. You can't please them all. :/ If the battle is not worth the war just distance yourself. Healthy happy sane momma equals happy healthy sane family. So keep that contact to the minimal or not at all if you have to. We ultimately choose our happiness and if someone is so vile and toxic keep away from them PERIOD. We know right from wrong and she should not be excluded or have a higher power to do as she pleases.

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    1. I completely agree Jaime. I have chosen to distance myself from friends and even a sibling because of this reason and I am happier for it. We can choose distance. We have the right. And I agree that anonymous' daughter may ultimately suffer. Tough choice, but most likely the right choice is to keep away! Thanks for your comment!

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  2. Sounds like you've tried everything possible the right and nice way. I'd tell your husband since its his mom LOOK SOMETHING NEEDS TO BE DONE AND DONE QUICK. I WILL NOT ALLOW HER TO AFFECT OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH EACHOTHER OR WITH MY DAUGHTER SHES GONNA MAKE IT TO WHERE I HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO CUT HER LOOSE. SO UNTIL "YOU" GET "YOUR" MOM IN LINE YOUR ACCESS TO THE GOODS IS ON HOLD :-)

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    1. LOL! Hope anonymous is reading these comments. Great tip, I say!

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