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I just have to get this off my chest. My mother-in-law has to be the meanest person on earth. Since day one of my marriage to her son (probably before), I've dealt with her attitude and constant criticism. She thinks her way is the best way at everything.
We have a two year old and everything I do for her is criticized or condemned by my MIL. She literally starts sentences with "you're doing it wrong..." And it doesn't help that she watches our daughter once sometimes up to three times a week. We need the child care and she loves our princess. At least her granddaughter deserves some love.
But is love for our daughter enough? And what the hell is her problem? Bitter old hag! Okay, that was mean too. Glad this is anonymous!
I digress, my MIL gets to be so rude all because "that's just the way she is" or "she means well." I hear that from everyone who knows her and how I feel about the situation. But that doesn't help. My poor husband gets stuck in the middle of it all trying to appease her and me. He has stood up for me and of course she totally backpedals and never really acts remorseful.
But don't get it twisted, as they say! I'm a strong woman so I stand up for myself too, but for respect to my husband I express things civilly. I wonder if that's getting me anywhere. I'd never want to feed into battling against her judgements or her bitter approach, but my sanity could be compromised.
Okay, just venting feels good, but I need some solutions. How do I deal with this woman's attitude and keep it together myself? Please help!