Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Falling OUT of Love

The following post was sent to HerMamas.com by an anonymous author. The opinions in this post do not reflect the opinions of the writers or editors of HerMamas.com. Thank you.                      

Love is all rainbows and butterflies until it is not. I remember being in that place thinking I'd be with my boyfriend forever. Then forever boiled down to only about 5 years. I don't know how it happened, but I actually began falling out of love. I wanted him around less and less. He annoyed me more and more. The worst part is I felt he and I were such different people. Five years ended up separating us more than they bonded us. 

Falling out of love is hard. There's the mutual friendships that change. The families that also feel an impact and what about the world you shared together? For a while I felt I couldn't go anywhere that my ex and I went. It was all such a process of closing a chapter. Then I found myself thinking about my ex all the time. I was getting over him and missing him all at once. Falling out of love is CRAZY!

But I didn't want to be in the relationship anymore so I ended it. What is surprising is that I cried often. I was sad and I probably secretly hoped he'd come back saying all that right things and we'd begin where we left off. But I didn't really love him anymore. Falling out of love, even when it's the right thing, hurts. Who knew? Did you?

Anonymous: thank you for sharing your opinion (and feelings) with us. Now we invite other readers to share... 

How did you cope with the end of love?                                                                                                                         


  1. I could have written this. It was also at the 5 year mark that we decided to end things. I am still dealing with it so one minute I am happy and free and the next I am crying for what was lost. I don't miss my boyfriend but I miss my best friend dearly. We had a great friendship which is one of the reasons why we stayed long after it should have ended. I keep busy, I laugh with my daughter and I just know that at the end of the day--this is what needed to happen.

    Teller #3

    1. Thanks for your comment. Happy you can relate with anonymous.
      By the sounds of it you completely understand. Best of luck with your daughter and continuing to laugh!


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