My 14 mos. old isn't actually spiderman. In fact, it doesn't seem like he's ready to walk anytime soon. They say never compare your children to each other, but there I was constantly comparing my youngest to his older brother and sister who both walked right before 12 months. My daughter was actually running at her 1st birthday party!
Now maybe this is all payback. When my little one was about 6 to 8 months I kept calling him "my lazy baby." I'm not winning "mother of the year" for admitting that, but I did feel he was taking his sweet time to sit up, roll over and crawl. Truth is I was comparing him to his siblings and peers. Now every parent doesn't actually refer to their kid as "lazy" but I'm sure many have been there and worried about milestones that place our child's development on some chart in the doctor's office. But those makers are simply that - markers. With my first, I would actually consider those markers the end all when they shouldn't be and whether other first-time parents like to admit it or not, we often freak-out when it comes to milestones.
Recently I got to thinking that calling my little one "lazy" is a form of freaking-out and isn't necessary. So he's still crawling at 14 mos. with no signs of walking anytime soon and that's ok! He's actually quite the speed-crawling pro who'd probably take 1st place in a diaper-dash.
First-time mom and pops (and even those not so new ones like myself) should give our little ones TIME! Soon enough it'll feel like they're crawling walls like spidey. What serves me instead of freaking out is appreciating these moments that linger. As of late I've really enjoyed how the longer it takes my little guy to walk the longer I get to ENJOY the baby that he still is. And what's so wrong with having a 14 month old who still wants his momma to carry him around? Now, I'm not saying ignore milestones. They are there for a reason and you can always bring up concerns with your child's doctor, but rest assured that comparing and rushing doesn't make reaching milestones any easier - for anyone.
Any stories you'd like to share about milestone freak-outs? We've all been there... so go ahead and share those stories with us by commenting below. Better yet how about sharing the other not-so-glamorous milestones like the 1st time your kid places their hand inside the toilet boil to create their own little whirlpool? I'll be the 1st to admit my "non-walker" is very, very good at that!