Thursday, September 13, 2012

Parenting Doubt: "Am I Doing Something Wrong?"


Some parents spank, some don't. Some use time-outs, so absolutely won't. Some yell, some listen. Some reward for good behaviors, and others withhold any and everything for bad ones. Your parenting philosophy is yours, but one thing I'm sure every parent can agree on is there are moments when we doubt ourselves.

I went crazy year zero through four asking myself, "Am I doing something wrong?" Instead of asking, "Am I doing something wrong." I now ask, "What more can I do?"  What every single person can control, parent or not, is how hard we work at anything! As a mom, there are days I give it my all and then there are days that I sadly "veg. out" and give parenting very little!  I shouldn't be surprised then if suddenly my kids seem different. Maybe they're acting out more than usual, fighting with each other or talking back.

When I ask myself, "what more can I do?" I find myself doing instead of doubting. I'll spend more one-on-one time with my daughter, do less talking and more listening to my son, or get down right goofy with all three kids! This way there's no time to "veg. out."

Sure, as parents we'll probably always feel little moments of doubt and that's normal! But let's agree to no longer BEAT ourselves up or disengage! When you ask, "what more can I do" solutions appear and empowerment results! And empowerment can come from anything, like turning to HerMamas.com to VENT! We're hear to listen (read) anytime! Together we'll surely find ways to do more and doubt less!

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3 comments:

  1. I am a mother with a 8 year old son. He was diagnosed with ADHD about a year ago. At the beginning I was hesitant to give him Med's. But as time went by he has been doing good in school with them. He is now having problems with acting up in his after school. He has become negative and stubborn. He refuses to try things he gives up so easily. If you have suggestions please let me know.

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    1. Hi Anonymous! You know I do not have any experience dealing with ADHD. For my kids I know that sometimes they need a little quite time after school. Sometimes school is too much and they need maybe 30 minutes of quite time to have a snack and just lay down or read. This give them time to decompress from school before they get into the rest of the day. This is a good question. I recommend heading over to our facebook page and post this question. I am sure you will get some great responses.

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    2. Check out some replies from our fan-page Hermamas/Subscribers! Hope you find some helpful advice!

      Nicole Aguirre - "My daughter also has ADHD. And I didn't believe it. I'm the type of parent where its all mental. "You can do anything if u put ur mind to it" but after seeing my daughter improve with med I have certainly changed my mind. Most meds only last about 6-8 hours. Try takin his meds right before he gets out of school. Or asking for a longer lasting med. If you chose. Their diet is a BIG deal. Cut down on sugars ans give simple tasks for after school. One maybe 2. Good luck"

      Jenny Zinck-Plant - "The time release meds wear off. He may need a small afternoon dose & try an appetite increaser at night. All helps my sons tremendously. Good luck! :)"

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