Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Hey Mo'Ne! You Throw Like a Girl

Recently we talked about how the Always company had a new campaign out bringing to light the use of the term "...like a girl". The idea was change the meaning of "...like a girl" to mean fast, strong, good, instead of weak or clumsy. How many times have you heard someone say, "You throw like a girl!". Well recently a 13 year old girl named Mo'Ne Davis has redefined what that term means.



Mo'Ne was one of only 2 girls to play in the 2014 Little League World Series. She pitched for the Philadelphia Taney Dragons . That is a big deal in itself. But this kid has the arm of gold! At just 13 years old she not only has a mean curve ball, but she can throw a ball at 70 miles per hour. 7-0! That is about 20 miles per hour faster than most boys her age. She is causing quite a commotion in the sports world, so much so that she graced the cover of Sport Illustrated. That's right a 13 year old girl is on the cover of Sports Illustrated magazine.


As the Momma to 2 girls I am happy to see Mo'Ne Davis and her achievements get so much public attention. She is a reminder that girls can do anything they set their mind to and that being #likeagirl can mean throwing a 70 mile per hour fast ball in the Little League World Series.

Monday, August 25, 2014

Beating the Back to School Blues

Maybe your kids are ready to go back to school? My kid, not so much! He's great when it comes to academic and social aspects of school, but it's always hard to get him back into a school routine. There's nothing that stings quite like hearing a child proclaim "ugh, I don't like school." I'm sure my child doesn't mean it, however, this is the exact statement I get a few days before the 1st day of school. It isn't that he doesn't like school. It's just hard for him to say goodbye to summertime fun. I understand.

So this is how we're handling the back to school blues:

My son has begun journaling. This is a great way for kids to write down their feelings, nervousness, excitement, or in my kid's case, avoidance of back to school. There are actually great school year planners that make journaling fun. These planners ask kids questions, map out their goals and allow kids to write down daily to-dos. My son got one of these neat planners (The Whimpy Kid School Planner) recently and he immediately began writing away. This process got him so much more excited about third grade. 


Planning play dates with school friends.  This is another great way to get kids back into the swing of things.  So my kid may not know who his teacher will be, what friends he'll have in class, but he knows kids from school and just being around them gets him giddy and pumped about seeing them on the playground every recess. 

Back to school shopping is such a great way to beat the blues. This is a ritual for most families, but remember not to make this feel like just another chore. Let kids pick what they want, moms. I know sometimes "what they want" means them picking out impractical lunch pails and impossibly loud t-shirts, but their excitement should outweigh momma's good sense (at least half the time). Get kids thinking about the outfits they'll wear, the books they'll read and all else. This should help add to the positivity of back to school season. 

Talk about what the next grade level specifically has to offer! This might sound silly but every grade level has something neat about it. For my kiddo there are a couple of key details to consider. For starters, he gets to do some fun school projects as a third grader (i.e. Spanish classes). He also gets to feel like a pretty big deal since his school divides playgrounds into two groups: 1st-3rd and 4th-5th. Being the oldest in one of the playgrounds makes him feel like a big cheese! Kids his age love feeling "older." Next, in our school district, every 3rd graders receives a chrome tablet for the year. After filling him in on this detail he was suddenly not so resistant about going back to school!

How do you get your reluctant little ones ready for back-to-school?

Friday, August 22, 2014

Break-Up Songs



I recently listened to a podcast all about break-ups and it took me back to those bad high school and even college break-ups. I was always the cliche of a girl after a break-up. My hair in a messy bun, wearing sloppy sweats, no make-up, tear stained face carrying around either a tub of ice cream or tube of cookie dough, moping around listening to the ultimate break-up mix. These songs helped to re-live the awful break-ups moments over and over again. Letting me dwell in the hurt feelings until I was ready to move on from sad love songs to more happy tunes.

So what are some of the ultimate break-up jams??? I asked my Facebook friends for some suggestions and it seemed like everyone had at least one. Here are a few they suggested......

Sukiyaki by A Taste of Honey: The opening line alone tells you that this is going to be a very sad song, "It's all because of you, I'm feeling sad and blue". This song can perfectly describe how a break up feels in the peak of the hurt.

Your Ex-Lover is Dead by Stars- This title sounds like it might be a break up jam that could make you feel a little better! A very Morrissey-esque and The Postal Service vibe. This starts with that awkward run in with the ex. The soft horns and piano make this song perfect to listen to while sitting in a dark room while it pours rain outside.

Best Thing I Never Had- Beyonce:  This is the song that you sing at the top of your lungs after the crying has stopped and the anger has set it. "Sucks to be you right now!... I am the one that got away.... Honestly you turned out to be the best thing I never had". 

Without You the Mariah Carey Version: this break up song is so awesome that it had been remade over and over again. So you initiated the break up and now you are totally regretting it. This is the jam you sing in the shower so the water can hide your tears. And also because you sound just like Mariah in the bathroom because the acoustics are so good.

Someone Like You by Adele:  This whole album by Adele was said to have been written by the singer after a horrid break up.  So when this song came out it become a break up anthem. This song goes beyond the break up and your ex's wedding day. Ugh we have all been there.

Mandy by Barry Manilow: Now this song has had to have been in a movie playing during a sad break up scene. Seriously listen to this song and you picture a sad man behind the wheel of a car in the rain (there is always rain) listening to this and crying.

You Outta Know by Alanis Morrissette:  The entire Jagged Little Pill album is pretty much the ultimate angry break up album. Alanis really captured the emotions that you go through during a break up. Uncle Joey from Full House really did a number on her! I can remember when my BFF went through a bad bad break up in high school. This entire album was on repeat 24/7.

Everything I Own by Bread: An old song but new to me and oh man is it a perfect sad break up song. A total 70's vibe. This was your parents teenage years break up song. The perfect song to play over and over again while trying to figure out the best way to get your ex back. The song may be old school but the message and the feelings still ring so true today.


My personal list includes....

The 1st Cut is the Deepest by Sheryl Crow
It's Been Awhile by Staind
Don't Speak by No Doubt
Somebody I Use to Know by Gotye
Picture of You by The Cure (well almost anything by The Cure really)
Sort Of by Ingrid Michaelson
Konstantine by Something Corporate.

But in my opinion Phil Collins is the king of the break up song.

Show 'em how it's done Phil......



Break ups are hard but I believe that good music can be like therapy. 
What songs would you add to this list? 

Thursday, August 21, 2014

Dear daughter: "I should have kept my hands to myself, I am sorry!"

I spanked my daughter earlier this week. I don't typically spank my children, but wish I could say I never do. Truth is, I've always believed spanking is a rare but necessary part of parenting if the reason to spank is valid, but what's really a valid reason? Validity is where things get tricky. 

And here's where they get tricker? I was wrong for spanking my daughter because I did it out of my own frustrations and not because her behaviors warranted corporal punishment. 

I should have counted to 10, walked away, or given the moment more time for things to de-escalate. I was quick to anger because my daughter was snatching my younger son's electronic device and kept doing it without regard to his feelings. She repeatedly ignored me as I urged her to stop and as her little brother wailed. 

She was wrong in her behavior, but how did me "hitting" her make things right? She wasn't respecting her brother, so in turn I get to disrespect her? Doesn't seem logical.



I immediately regretted spanking and yelling. As I spanked (and lectured) she looked up saying, "ok, ok, ok." But it wasn't "ok." I eventually apologized for spanking and once again she answered "it's okay!" I responded "NO, it wasn't okay. I should have kept my hands to myself and I am sorry!"

Spanking children like in the example I explained is usually a matter of a parent's immaturity and lack of self-control. Spanking is a quick fix and it's usually counter-productive. I wholehearted get that and in my imperfect reaction the other day (which was to spank), I hope my ability to articulate an apology, and demonstrate a lesson that even moms get it wrong, teaches my daughter about accountability, remorse and forgiveness.

How often do you spark, if at all? Why or why not?




Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Break-Up Songs



I recently listened to a podcast all about break-ups and it took me back to those bad high school and even college break-ups. I was always the cliche of a girl after a break-up. My hair in a messy bun, wearing sloppy sweats, no make-up, tear stained face carrying around either a tub of ice cream or tube of cookie dough, moping around listening to the ultimate break-up mix. These songs helped to re-live the awful break-ups moments over and over again. Letting me dwell in the hurt feelings until I was ready to move on from sad love songs to more happy tunes.

So what are some of the ultimate break-up jams??? I asked my Facebook friends for some suggestions and it seemed like everyone had at least one. Here are a few they suggested......

Sukiyaki by A Taste of Honey: The opening line alone tells you that this is going to be a very sad song, "It's all because of you, I'm feeling sad and blue". This song can perfectly describe how a break up feels in the peak of the hurt.
 
Your Ex-Lover is Dead by Stars- This title sounds like it might be a break up jam that could make you feel a little better! A very Morrissey-esque and The Postal Service vibe. This starts with that awkward run in with the ex. The soft horns and piano make this song perfect to listen to while sitting in a dark room while it pours rain outside.

Best Thing I Never Had- Beyonce:  This is the song that you sing at the top of your lungs after the crying has stopped and the anger has set it. "Sucks to be you right now!... I am the one that got away.... Honestly you turned out to be the best thing I never had". 

Without You the Mariah Carey Version: this break up song is so awesome that it had been remade over and over again. So you initiated the break up and now you are totally regretting it. This is the jam you sing in the shower so the water can hide your tears. And also because you sound just like Mariah in the bathroom because the acoustics are so good.

Someone Like You by Adele:  This whole album by Adele was said to have been written by the singer after a horrid break up.  So when this song came out it become a break up anthem. This song goes beyond the break up and your ex's wedding day. Ugh we have all been there.

Mandy by Barry Manilow: Now this song has had to have been in a movie playing during a sad break up scene. Seriously listen to this song and you picture a sad man behind the wheel of a car in the rain (there is always rain) listening to this and crying.

You Outta Know by Alanis Morrissette:  The entire Jagged Little Pill album is pretty much the ultimate angry break up album. Alanis really captured the emotions that you go through during a break up. Uncle Joey from Full House really did a number on her! I can remember when my BFF went through a bad bad break up in high school. This entire album was on repeat 24/7.

Everything I Own by Bread: An old song but new to me and oh man is it a perfect sad break up song. A total 70's vibe. This was your parents teenage years break up song. The perfect song to play over and over again while trying to figure out the best way to get your ex back. The song may be old school but the message and the feelings still ring so true today.


My personal list includes....

The 1st Cut is the Deepest by Sheryl Crow
It's Been Awhile by Staind
Don't Speak by No Doubt
Somebody I Use to Know by Gotye
Picture of You by The Cure (well almost anything by The Cure really)
Sort Of by Ingrid Michaelson
Konstantine by Something Corporate.

But in my opinion Phil Collins is the king of the break up song.

Show 'em how it's done Phil......



Break ups are hard but I believe that good music can be like therapy. 
What songs would you add to this list? 

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Disney Channel Shows: A Household Obsession

The Disney Channel is a household favorite for us. The early morning cartoon selections are perfect for toddlers thanks to shows like Sofia the First and The Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. My typical morning entails at least 30-60 minutes of Disney Channel to give this momma time to tidy our home and ready myself for the day.

As the day wears on, the channel's programming switches to a slurry of pre-teen shows. I must say this is where the household obsession begins. My 8 year old could sit in front of the tube with Disney Channel on all day, if we let him. Of course, we limit the amount of TV he watches, but a lot of these Disney shows are pretty awesome. I actually don't mind his interest in this kind of television and often find myself watching along with him.

These are some must watch Disney Channel Shows:

Gravity Falls: is one of the only animated shows of it's kind for a pre-teen audience. I've already raved about this show in other Hermamas.com posts, but I had to mention it again since my son and I LOVE the series so much. It's hilarious and so well written. We find ourselves repeating the show's silly one-liners all day long.



Dog with a Blog: we're a dog loving family so naturally we took to this show. This series is about a typical American family except for the fact that their dog TALKS (and obviously, blogs)! Talking animals aren't a new concept, but this show is the right mix of funny and sweet. My kid and I enjoy watching.



Good Luck Charlie: Another cute show that incorporates today's technology. Each show ends up being a video-blog for the little sis in the family, Charlie. The entire cast has great chemistry and the storylines are pretty cute, too. I especially love how everyone is so loving to the adorable Charlie character.


Austin and Ally: this is your classic show filled with pre-teens that love to dance and sing. I love how this show is such a good influence on what my kid thinks is "cool." He often tries dancing and dressing like Austin,  a fictional character I don't mind my son imitating.


Girl Meets World:  This is a spin off of a classic TV show from my youngin' days, "Boy Meets World." This is a new show to the Disney Channel and my kiddo and I already love it. It's got great lessons splattered throughout and it's nice to Cory and Topanga Matthews back on screen as parents. Just last night while watching an episode my son leaned over and said, "I love this show!"


What are your favorite Disney Channel Shows?

Monday, August 18, 2014

Lose Weight or Lose Money!

 Money is always a good motivating factor. Research has shown that money rewards and incentives can help people keep on a healthy lifestyle. A study conducted by the Mayo Clinic gave participants $20 every month if they lost 4 pounds. If they did not lose the 4 pounds they would then have to pay $20. These people lost 7 more pounds in a year than people who did not have the money incentive.  There are new websites and apps that are using this motivation to help people lose weight.

Pact is an app for your phone. The app is free and will pay you to hit all your fitness targets. Where does the money come from? Well, it comes from members who do not meet their goals and have to pay $5.00 a week. The concept is simple. You set your weekly goals for exercise and food and then make a 'pact' to keep these goals. Throughout the week you check in at the gym (gps will verify that you really are there and for how long!) you log in the food you eat. You even take photos of fruits and veggies that you consume to prove you are consuming them! Meet your goals and earn $5.00. Don't meet your goals and pay $5.00. This app sounds motivating and also time consuming!

Healthywage.com is a place that sounds like Las Vegas for weight loss. When you sign up, you set up how much you want to lose and in what amount of time. Then you place your bet. For instance you want to lose 60 pounds in 6 months and you bet $300.00. Then you have the 6 months to lose the weight. If you meet this goal you win! If you don't then you pay them the $300.00. This program can be done individually or as a group.

Would you try a program like this? 
Are these type of money incentive programs a great way to help people with weight loss? 
Or they just a scam to take people's money?